This is how I feel about it,

take or leave it! I have a big family, all adopted or soon to be (2 in the works). Was this how I had envisioned my family while growing up, kind of...... I always thought after having some of my own I would love to adopt a few. Turns out I get to adopt all my kids. What a privealage!  I was always the one crying in the sappy Hallmark movie. I was drawn to them like a magnet. Go ahead and laugh, I can take it!  I needed to see them  to know there was some kind of happy ending out there. I loved those made for T.V.  movies that were "based on a true story."  I am sentimental, I admit it. I am not however stupid or completely nieve. I have a very hard shell, but not a bullet proof one. I know in the world today many are criticized for even considering a family bigger than two. Here's the deal, this is how I feel about big families. To each his own!!! If you can clothe, feed, educate, and put a roof over their heads than by all means have a bakers dozen or be the Duggars. My friends sister used to say when asked if she was having another baby, "our reproductive plans are none of your business." that is how I feel about all families. It doesn't matter wether you have 1 or 15, tragedy or misfortunes happen to the best and the worst of  us. You never know when  even one mouth to feed may be a burden that seems unsermountable. I do know though that I have a firm belief and faith in God, and that my family plan involves my husband , me, and God. The family unit is ordained of God. Families are a part of his plan.  Until you have walked a mile in some one elses shoes, please do not start barking opinions. How many children two peolpe decide to add to their family is really a personal choice. I get more odd and intersting comments than you can imagine. Looks are no big deal any more, stare at me if you must. Please however do not decide I have done something amazingly wrong by loving my children. I am in no way asking you to feed them, clothe them, tuck them in at night, or break up their fights. I am not asking you to kiss their boo boos or sit through their baseball games and dance recitals. Unless you are related of coarse, and then it may be obligatory...... We recently took in a temporary number 8. She was with us for 5 days. Bright shiny brown eyes, curly little locks and the sweetest demeanor a 1 year old could ever have. If they asked us to take her longer we would have. I sure got asked a lot of questions though as to when we planned on stopping." Boy, that's a lot of people with a lot of needs?"   No one knows that better than my husband and I, and believe me, we know how much work it is. We also know the rewards.!! We are not saints, or gluttons for punishment. We do not make these decisions lightly. We do not have a lot of wiggle room around here these days, but we can sure help if needed. I recieved a call a couple weeks ago for a child who was 2. He had been beaten severly and had a broken arm. Come on over buddy, I definatley have room for one more!! EVERYONES circumstances are different, some better and some worse. He went to another home. The fight for these little children is real. I have heard of situations that would blow your mind. I am well aware happy endings are hard to find. I am also very aware of the needs and demands of small children. So yes, we have our hands full, and yes our family is big. I always wanted a big family. We have our good days and our bad around here, don't you? There are days when throwing in the towel seems like a splendid idea. Imagine my world with out my kids, I couldn't. So I will take the good with the bad and I will even endure your criticism and snide remarks. It is all worth it!!