Some times it's not.
I let her choose how her hair is done most days. She sometimes has one ponytail, sometimes braids and one ponytail. We have done her hair so many ways I can not even count. All I think are very cute on her. I was getting my hair cut at a chain that will remain nameless the other day. My hair girl is on maternity leave. At the last minute Miss M asks to come with me. I quickly throw some water and leave in conditioner on her afro and we run out the door. The minute I sit in the chair I am bombarded by questions about how I came to have an African American Daughter. I give my usual answer (ADOPTION) and I am then asked how many kids I have . I answer again. Miss M starts to get curious about the fun things around her and I have to remind to wait patiently on the bench for me. Then the hair questions start. Do I know what I am doing? Have I ever taken a class? What products do I use on her hair? I want to say , hey, didn't I come here for mine not hers. I explain I have been told not to cut it yet and that it get's washed twice a week and every day gets water, leave in conditioner and oil. She really has healthy hair even if it looks dry today. I explain the hurry I was in to get out the door.They are looking at me like I am an unfit mother because her hair is not in braids and not oiled at the moment. They are actually being quite rude. Then I get the big excuse me from the lady in the chair next to me who has been glaring at me the entire time and she says," Mam I have neice with hair like that and your daughters in not being cared for right. I would like to offer to pay for a hair cut for your girl." My Mouth drops open and I stop and think before answering. "Mam, I have explained now three times, we were in a hurry leaving the house and her hair is JUST FINE. I appreciate the offer, but money is not the issue. I can offord a hair cut for her. I have been told to leave it alone until she is eight or nine. When I get home I will make sure it is oiled right away." When I get up front I make sure I tell them how completely rude they have all been and that I will not be back. Two days later Miss M informs me she may get written up by the mean bus driver for getting her hair oil on the windows of the bus. WHAT???? One day there is not enough, and then too much. You do not write a kindergartener up for looking out the window and accidentally getting it dirty. I had to call the bus depot and lodge another complaint against the silly bus driver.The supervisor was MORE than kind to me as you can imagine. My Miss M is a beautiful girl and we are trying to teach her love everyone and that who you are on the inside is SOOOOOOO much more important than what we see on the outside, because IT IS!!!!
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today is one of those days where i just wish MOST people in the world would dissappear! AND your post made me feel a little better.....because I'm NOT the only one! :) So thanks for posting this one for me! I think her hair is BEAUTIFUL and the fact that someone is rude enough to say that to you....yep, they are on my dissappear list for the day! :) HUGS!!!!
W.O.W.
People just need to learn to keep their trap shut.
Wow, amazingly rude.. I wish sometimes my kids would stand up for themselves, and then I think what Christ would do..
Mean people suck.. Period!
You must have "be rude to me" written on your face. Although I've never seen it there myself...
I swear you have the worst luck for this kind of thing!! :)
WE KNOW that you are a good mom and that you have done all sorts of research on her hair...why does her hair have to be such a big deal for people? WIERD. People have waaaay too much time on their hands if they're worrying about it for you...
Holy cows! Those ladies were RUDE! Didn't their parents teach them...If you don't have anything nice to say, than don't say it at all!
How outrageous! I've been silently reading your blog for over a year now, and I've really enjoyed following your experiences. I can't believe you were spoken to that way. It really makes me angry! Imagine how little Miss M felt listening to them bickering about her lovely hair! There is no design flaw in African genes. Their hair is exactly the way God intended it to be, and if ignorant people can't embrace her beautiful hair for what it is... they can stuff it! Her hair is FAR more beautiful undone and "chaotic" than the little girls with perms, relaxers, weaves, and tight braids run around with. I applaud you for being such a great mother, and for not taking their crap.
She is so beautiful I think her natural place is a magazine page. And I love it when you leave her hair wild. Her little face is so pretty that the contrast is striking. I just had to call my husband over to the computer to show him. While I was at it I told him you were an amazing mother. I told him about when we had bunko at your house. You probably don't remember this but it really struck me. Your kids came home, but I couldn't see them. I could only see your face. It lit up like a Christmas tree when you saw them. I am amazed at your organizational skills, but that is when I truly knew you were a good mother. Had to share....
What!? I can't believe the outright rudeness! Good job standing up for yourself and your beautiful daughter!
she is a DOLL and those mean ladies need to SHUT IT! horrible. i HATE when people can't keep their opinions to themselves. what happened to tact? and kind words? and the golden rule. sheesh. makes me wanna snatch 'em bald headed!
and the bus driver!? sheesh what a TOOL!
i am glad this post ended with you telling them like it is....
she really is a beauty.
her hair, her beautiful complexion
her features and innocence.
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